Some women (and men) enjoy the pleasures that a vibrator can bring. But a little vibration can be too much at times. If a woman has been having trouble achieving orgasm, a vibrator might be just what she needs to help her. Some sex therapists may argue this stating that she could become accustomed to the never-tiring vibrator and find that she might not be able to climax without the toy.
But, if you are unfamiliar with what to do, here is some information you might find useful.
Joani Blank, who is author of “Good Vibrations: The Complete Guide to Vibrators,” and owns a vibrator store and mail order business www.goodvibes.com, has several suggestions in getting used to a vibrator.
First, you should ‘make friends’ with your genitals. Look at them in the mirror and say hello with your fingers. Use some lubrication as you explore. Find out which areas are especially sensitive to your touch and which are less so.
Explore different kinds of touch with your hands, varying the speed and pressure. At first you may find that it takes several minutes before you become at all aroused. Don’t expect to have an orgasm right away. It may take as much as several weeks for your body to learn how to receive pleasure from your own touch.
Experiment with your vibrator
Now start touching yourself with your vibrator. If it has two speeds, try them both. You may want to touch your belly, thighs and hips first to see how it feels.
When you first put the vibrator on your genitals, you may choose to place your fingers, a towel, or a cloth between you and the vibrator. Or, you may want to hold the vibrator directly on your clitoris, on the hood covering the clitoris, or on the mons (the fatty mound covering your pubic bone).
Inserting the vibrator
If your vibrator is cylindrical (the battery-operated kind), or if it is an electric vibrator with a long (insertable) attachment, you can insert it into your vagina and/or move it gently in and out. Although insertion may feel very good to you, it is improbable that you will become aroused enough to have an orgasm unless you stimulate the clitoral area at the same time with your fingers or another vibrator.
Remember, there are very few nerve endings inside the vagina that respond to light touch or friction. The entrance to the vagina and the inner lips may be very sensitive, however, and they can be reached comfortably with any vibrator.