A Little Nip for the Nippy
Changing sensations from altering touch to using oils to including heat and cold can enhance love play and make an evening of lust more enjoyable. Many lovers add these ‘spices’ to lovemaking to give their partners more pleasure. Since ice has been used frequently in sex play, this section will offer some suggestions on using ice as well as discuss some things to avoid when using cold as pleasure.
Ice cubes taken from the freezer can be very erotic. Taking an ice cube and tracing it around a lover’s body can add to their stimulation. You can also place small ice cubes into your mouth and stimulate them with a cold tongue. If you don’t want to use ice you can use a cold chain or other metal object. Place the chain into a plastic bag and allow it to cool for a short time in the freezer or refrigerator. Then, using tantalizing strokes, drag the chain across your lover’s body, paying close attention to sensitive areas.
Ice can also be inserted vaginally or into the rectum during foreplay or during intercourse, which can provide cooling stimulation for both partners.
Playing with ice can have downsides. Should you worry about frostbite? Not if you are using ice from your freezer. While the ice applied to the skin is freezing, it quickly melts, creating a water barrier between the ice and the skin. The temperature of this water barrier is significantly above freezing; thus there is little risk of injury. Plus, if you move the ice around the body stimulating various parts of the skin, the ice does not stay in one place long enough to cause any significant lowering of the skin’s temperature.
If you keep the ice in one spot for too long, that area will become cold to the touch and may become numb. Also, prolonged contact with ice can become painful at times. This is a real bummer if you are trying to enhance the pleasurable sensations and not block them or cause pain. Holding ice in your mouth and enjoying your partner orally can be exciting, unless your mouth begins to hurt and your tongue gets numb. So, keep the ice in your mouth for a short time then remove it. The cold inside your mouth will remain as will the pleasure for both you and your partner.
Inserting ice vaginally or rectally should pose few problems unless you use a lot of ice. Two concerns immediately come to mind. First, remember that the ice will melt. This will give a whole new meaning to ‘sleeping on the wet spot!’ Use towels or plastic-lined covers over the bed linens.
Second, remember you are putting the ice into the body and could affect the body’s core temperature. If the core temperature is lowered too much, a condition known as hypothermia could develop. Again, this should not be a problem unless you use a large number of ice cubes or repeatedly insert ice into your partner’s body.
Finally, if you use something metallic like a chain, do not get the chain too cold or allow ice crystals to form on the metal. If the chain is too cold or there is moisture on the chain it could cause injury or stick to the skin much like putting your tongue on a cold flagpole in the middle of winter.
A word of caution is needed here: Never use anything colder than an ice cube from your freezer. Do not use dry ice. Dry ice is frozen carbon dioxide that is significantly colder than ice cubes. Dry ice can quickly injure the skin and cause frostbite in a matter of seconds. Also, never use the propellant from aerosol sprays such as Dust Off® to chill the skin. It, too, can be substantially colder than ice cubes and cause injury.