Is She a Virgin?
I want to know about the cervix, about the changes of vagina after sex for the first time. Will it bleed for the first time? I also want to know if it is possible to find out if the woman is a virgin or not.
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To answer your question, the cervix is the neck of the uterus that extends into the vagina. During sexual intercourse, the man's penis may bump against it, but under normal circumstances, there should be no bleeding from the cervix.
When a woman is a virgin, there can a small flap of skin called the hymen that can be found toward the entrance of the vagina. This membrane is very thin and does not seal the vagina, but it can narrow the vaginal entrance. When a woman engages in sexual intercourse for the first time, this membrane can be torn, causing a slight amount discomfort and some bleeding. But, realize that bleeding does not occur every time. Occasionally, the hymen may be absent or stretched (not from intercourse) and not tear or bleed during sex.
A great explanation can be found at...
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/defining.html
" The old concept of checking for a woman’s hymen to determine if she is a virgin is being thrown out as more is understood about the hymen. Not all women are born with hymens, some are born without fully intact hymens, and the membrane is so thin that it often breaks with normal physical activity such as running, gymnastics or horseback riding. Today it’s assumed that "virgin" means not having had been penetrated sexually. But what is considered "de-virginizing" penetration is still unclear -- does it mean penetration by a penis, finger, tongue or experience alone? Even more confusing is how society judges a "virgin." Sometimes the name is used condescendingly, sometimes in high regard and sometimes simply just as a fact. "Another website says, "With girls, usually a piece of skin, the so-called hymen, at the entrance of your vagina. In some girls, it's thin, in some it's thick and in others it's not there at all. Some people think that if the hymen is torn or broken, the girl is not a virgin. This is not true. Particularly as some girls don't even have it, or it's been opened up by a tampon. A virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. In other words penetration has not taken place. Whether you're a virgin or not, is your business and yours alone." (http://www.reproductivechoices.co.za/virgin.htm)
Thus, if you are looking for some bleeding as evidence of virginity, I am afraid that the sign may not be present and is no longer reliable. As a rule of thumb, if she says she's a virgin, believe her since 'a gentleman never asks and a lady never tells!'