Can she be stretched by a large penis?
My girlfriend and I broke up a while back and afterwords she got involved with another man sexually. As it turns out he was quite a bit larger than I am, his girth being about the size of a can of chewing tobacco and length at maybe nine inches. In other words, he's about two inches longer and much thicker than me. He and she only had sex twice, two rather short sessions in one night within a few minutes of each other to be exact.
Now we are going to be getting back together and it will have been about two months or more since she has any sexual contact, ie: penile penetration or masturbation. What I want to know is will she be stretched too much, would that little bit of contact have made much difference, or will the muscles have contracted a bit?
Please, I'm worried about the situation and my ability to give her pleasure. She says that I'm the best she's ever had, but I'm worried that this will change things.Our answer...
Thanks for contacting us and asking youir question. We are glad to hear that you and your girlfriend are getting back together and wish you the best.
As for vaginal stretching caused by her former partner, there are two things that should be mentioned. First, unless there was very little lubrication and she was not ready for penetration or there was sudden, forceful stretching or tearing of the vaginal walls, or her was the size of a small watermelon there should be no difference. To gove you an example, women who give birth have significant stretching and some tearing of the vagina that can cause a little more 'looseness' than before. Most often, the obstetrician repairs the vagina at birth (or sometimes later) and all is returned close to normal.
Second, the vagina is not an actual space, but a potential space meaning that it expands from a collapsed state to accommodate the penis. If she wants to make things tighter for you, she can do Kegel exercises to strengthen the muscles surrounding the vagina. But, if either of you find that she is not snug enough, then she can learn how to do the exercise. By the way, it is a wonderful feeling when she clamps down on you and no, you cannot get 'stuck' inside her!
To give you another example, a friend was worried that he would not be 'big enough' for his girlfriend. She had been married to a tall man who, reportedly, had a large penis. She had also given birth to two children about two years apart. After the couple had gotten together he confided in me that there was NO problem in the size department and, during a casual conversation with both of them, she made the offhanded comment that their sex life was wonderful.
As for your giving her pleasure, while many women can climax from vaginal penetration, many more require clitoral stimulation as well. There is an old phrase - it's not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean that matters. So, if you are of normal size and you are caring, loving, and considerate, you should have no problems in satisfying her.
Again, thanks for asking and best of luck to the two of you.