Is She Having an Affair?
I have been married for 3 years, so I think I know my wifes vaginal size pretty well. We had intercorse the other night and I noticed that I lasted longer than usual. When she did not climax and I had she asked if I would touch her manually to help her climax. In the past no matter whether we started with manual touching or did manual touching after intercourse she was always very tight. One finger mabey two if she was really excited. Well in this encounter I found that not only did one do nothing but two was quite easy and three was no problem.
Is it possible to tell from the difference in size whether or not she is using a toy or another penis that is causing her to be stretched larger. I don't know if this is possible or if I am over reacting.
Thank you for your time
Please HELP!
Our answer...
Thanks for writing and sharing your concerns. We read your letter and have several thoughts...
The vagina is a 'potential' space meaning that it expands to accommodate just about anything from fingers to a penis to a baby. While the vagina will stretch and remain in a stretched or looser state after a very large object passes (i.e. baby's head), it might take repeated exposure to a large toy or penis to result in excessive loosening. To give you an exampl.e of stretching to accommodate things, consider fisting. Many partners enjoy fisting in which the entire hand is inserted into the vagina. To accomplish this, the woman must relax and allow her partner to penetrate her with one, then two, then more fingers until the hand is able to be inserted. In most cases, the vagina returns to normal shape and size afterward.
It is also important to note that if the woman is aroused and using the muscles around the vagina (PC muscles), she can tighten around a finger or penis to make the fit nice and tight. Basically, there is a great benefit to the Kegel exercise!
It is also important to keep in mind that the largest sex organ of the body is the mind!! If there is something is bothering her or you, it may take longer to climax or climax may not be achieved at all. She may be distracted by something at work or at home causing her to be less responsive. In such cases, she may not tighten her vagina as usual.
Finally, not everyone climaxes during every instance of sex. There are times when my partner will not achieve orgasm and times when I don't. That is not to say that something is wrong with the relationship. The first time I did not climax my wife asked if she was doing something wrong! I explained that I enjoyed the sex but had not need for an orgasm. She was not 'thrilled' with that response until I asked if she climaxed every time we had sex!
To answer your question, there is no way to tell if your wife is having an affair because she seems less tight than before or that she was able to accommodate more fingers than usual
If you are concerned about her experimentation, ask her...probably not directly, though. You might want to approach her about adding a dildo or vibrator into your sex play and see if she has a favorite. If she does, then enjoy the heck out of it and experiment with what turns you and her on the most.