Trouble Getting Her Off
I am 30 years old with 3 years of married life. I feel that mostly I fail to make my wife cum . It is due to lack of hardness and early ejaculation. Please advise some exercise. What is PC muscle?
Our answer...
Thanks for writing and asking your question. One question immediately comes to mind. Have you talked with your wife about what would make her climax? She might be able to give you insight into what gives her the most pleasure.
Other than that, there are a couple of other thoughts...
Some women have a difficult time reaching climax and many do not climax from sexual intercourse. A few woman have suggested bringing them to climax before entering the vagina. I have found that helpful in a couple of ways. First, giving her an orgasm first ensures her pleasure and, in turn, she will make your pleasure more enjoyable. Second, giving her an orgasm first lessens the time it takes to get to a second climax. I usually bring my partner to orgasm orally or manually once or twice before entering her. This allows her to orgasm a third time during penetration, Even if that doesn't happen, she is pleased.
Another way to satisfy her is to give her oral sex AFTER your climax. While that might not sound appealing, she will LOVE it. The women I have done that to are amazed and highly aroused, reaching climax in a matter of mere minutes.
If you want to last longer there are a few things you can do. The PC muscle can be toned by contracting and relaxing while NOT having sex. To identify that muscle, when you are urinating, contract the muscle that will make the flow of urine stop. Then, whenever you want, contract the muscle several times to strengthen it. Once toned, the PC muscle can be used to delay your orgasm.
Another technique is to think of something other than sex if you feel like you are getting close to orgasm. Baseball, taxes, bills, and other things can take you away from the edge.
We do not suggest you use any orgasm delaying ointment of cream on your penis. Those things not only desensitize the penis but make her numb as well. This is not good!
Again, thanks for asking. Hope this helps.