Strokin'

In Case of Injury

While injury is not likely if you use plenty of lubricant, occasionally there may be some scraping of the skin creating an abrasion. with cinnamon oil or Ben-Gay, be prepared to wash his penis with soap and water. You many also need to use an oil-based lotion such as petroleum jelly to help get the irritating oils off his penis.

Occasionally, vigorous masturbation, especially without using any lubrication, can abrade the skin causing redness, inflammation, and pain. The abrasions can be treated by washing the penis gently with soap and warm water then applying an ointment such as neosporin to the injured areas. It would be wise to refrain from manual or other exploration for a while!

For some, sexual intercourse is not possible. This may be due to a variety of things, such as simply getting to know each other and postponing sexual intercourse until later. But the general concept is that penetration is not going to happen. So, when you are going to explore him, there are a few simple guidelines to follow.

Most men feel women aren't skilled at handling penises. The grip is too limp, it may be to firm, and it lacks conviction and exuberance. Many women seem afraid to apply pressure, yet often pull or tug at inappropriate moments, disrupting the rhythm. The term "choking the chicken" comes to mind and some women apply a death grip to the penis. They also have a tendency to scratch. Scratching the penis is just as uncomfortable as scratching the clitoris. It's important to remember that the head of the penis, the glans, is the most sensitive part, especially around the base of the glans. This does not mean that you can ignore the shaft, but remember the most pleasure is centered at the top.

His Response Is Key
Find out what he likes by trying different things. Listen to moans and sense movement, varying your touch to enhance his pleasure.

It’s perfectly OK to ask if he's close to orgasm or if he's enjoying your hand and tongue. You're doing incredibly intimate things and should feel free to talk about them. If either one of you is shy, do it in the dark. But do it and do it tenderly and lovingly.

Here are some specific suggestions when exploring and pleasuring him.

Explore every square inch of his genitals. A man loves to have his penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted. Don't start stroking or jerking quite yet. Just feel the fullness of it all. Let your fingers run from the balls to the top of the glans, swirl around there, then slide back down the other half and end back down at the balls. The movements should be smooth, without bumping or stalling.

Now you're ready for some stepped-up action, but don't suddenly lapse into a series of beatings, whackings, jackings and jerkings. Tease the more sensitive areas of the penis. These include: the glans and corona, and the tender part of the bottom side of his penis. Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out. Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he's loving every second of it.

After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are. Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day.

Let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a makeshift goosehead formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your goosehead handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant known as pre-cum. Pre-seminal fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the sperm and semen can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis. If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, and it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time. In any case a good lubricant will work just as well.

Add a drop of moisturizing lotion to the shaft and gently rub it in. Alexandra Penney, in her book, "How to Make Love to a Man", is very keen on massaging the lotion between one's hands before putting it on the penis because sometimes the cream is cold and the palm-rubbing warms it up. If your partner doesn't seem to have a very firm erection, try using a cinnamon-based ointment which you can find at your local sex novelty store or acquire through a mail catalog. The slight burning sensation often causes the penis to become rock-hard. Adding a little dab to the testicles also helps. If you really want to do a number on him, slip a dollop of Ben-Gay on his balls and watch him go through the roof. Remember, though, that cinnamon oil and the menthol in Ben-Gay are irritants to the skin and the skin of the penis and scrotum are much more sensitive than the skin on the rest of his body.