There is no need to panic or call 9-1-1 to bring the 'jaws of life' to spread things open so you can go 'cave diving' in search of the last condom. First, it's not really lost. There are two places to look for it.

Look at him first!

While this may seem surprising, after a condom breaks, it is very possible that it rolled up and is now buried in the man's pubic hair at the base of his penis. If that is the case, simply remove the condom as it would normally be removed and toss it. Oh yes, in the process of curling up at the base of the penis it may have entrapped some public hair. So, pull it off gently.

Second, look on the bed or around the place where you were having sex. If the condom came off, it may be in the sheets.

If it's not on him or in the sheets, it's in her!

Relax, the condom that broke or came off is not traveling around her body. It can be only one place...inside her vagina. The opening of the uterus called the cervix is much too small to allow a condom to enter the uterus, so there is no possibility of the condom entering her uterus.

Time for exploration

This may not be something that you really wanted to try (especially if this is the first time you and your partner had sex). But, it is something that needs to be done. With her lying on her back, the man inserts two fingers into the vagina. It will be lubricated so they should easily slip inside, but you should use additional lubricant.

Slide the fingers around the walls of the vagina to locate the condom. It may be deep inside, next to the cervix, so be prepared to go well inside. Yes, Virginia, this may be uncomfortable! Once the condom is located, pinch it between the fingers and slowly remove it.

Another option is for her to get into a squatting position since in this position, even the deepest regions of the vagina are accessible. Again, sweep the vagina until the condom is found, then gently remove it.

If the condom cannot be located, it may be packed tight against the cervix. In such cases, it may be necessary to see a doctor.

Time for Spermicide

In the event of a broken or displaced condom, the woman should insert spermicidal cream or jelly as it will help prevent pregnancy and some sexually transmitted diseases. She should do this even if the man has not ejaculated as sperm cells may be present in fluids known as 'precum.'

 

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